Notable beginnings

It’s hard really, difficult even. The optimistic view we have over dreams that seem real yet feel distant all due to a prevalence of a society of young beings brought up with no one to nudge them and tell them they have an ability.

 Think about it really, if self-affirmations recited by ourselves have such a positive impact, what more if it came from somebody else, someone you looked up to. Due to societal changes and vast influences surrounding media, particularly women have been victim to validation, men have also experienced this although it’s something not openly spoken about, but it takes form in the way they handle themselves when doing roughly anything concerning change, it’s always followed by connotations of self-doubt, hidden behind power suits and in the case of women, heavy make-up.

The fragments that still has to be restored from educating a young generation that neither circumstance nor financial status has an influence on pursuing a dream seemed relentless but are doable.

Staying informed gives added advantage, giving you the ability to draw from what you know, follow through and get it done.

Like a fresh painted wall, the residue and stingy scent won’t remain a thing of the past if the windows are kept shut. Trust me, if you’re destined for greatness, it will gnaw at the back of your mind till you do something about it.

You’ll try to ignore it yes, but years later you’ll recite the same story to your grand kids about who you wanted to be, although grey and fairly wrinkled now. But full of wisdom kept and never dispersed, do you only realize you should’ve set your mind to it, and did what needed to be done.

Reluctance of any kind should be a thing of the past. Satisfaction offer’s far more reward that will undeniably surpass any gratification.

So whether you’ve been nudged lately or not, take it upon yourself to peel away layers of uncertainty, and open door’s that have trails of any possibility worth giving a shot.

Maybe one day when you’re really old and grey you’ll have the courtesy of telling your grand kids a different story. And when they look at you with eyes that carry willingness but hesitation, you won’t look away with regret, you’ll pull them up on your lap and recite what the great Maya Angelou said to them “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you”.

If you’ve found your purpose, don’t sleep on it. Refuse nonchalance, break the barriers of waiting to be told you’re great at something you already know you’re good at.   

MissMinnie.

Familiar Echoes

 “Be open to the echoes of wisdom, its truths will reveal itself in time”

 - Unknown

In a recent song I’ve played over and over in my playlist I came across the art of Suppression, its nothing new really, a couple of people have probably been subject to it for over decades now, without their knowledge. I hastily opened my dictionary and tried to make sense of it. I was certainly alarmed when it read:

Suppress:

•         Forcibly put an end to
•         Prevent the development, action, or expression of (a feeling, impulse, idea, etc.); restrain.
•         Prevent the dissemination of (information), to conceal, to keep hidden.

I was rather alarmed when it said “to forcibly put and end to” I, for one can relate to that meaning but it’s too daunting of a task for anyone to do. Life is meant to be dealt in a way that offer’s closure if not peace of mind at the end of every decision or choice made. Resorting to suppression in any form, whether emotional or for personal reasons is never advised.

I always wondered how I would deal with things that involved my emotional well-being. After all “flesh and spirit” is what we possess, and what we put in is entirely up to us.

And after a while you begin to pay attention to the lines that appear near your mouth when you smile. How your eyes beam at good things. And how they seem to fit. And you wonder if concealing it, is right. Pain may be inevitable, it does however have a remedy.

The song in my playlist echoed at the back of my mind, and I did not find myself nodding in regard to what Anita baker was saying in her 1983 ballad “No more Tears”.

In the second paragraph after the chorus she sings:

“Ain't no more sadden eyes

From crying through the night

Gonna gather up, gather up my feelings

And lock them all inside

So when you say you're leaving

And you walk out my door

I can truly say to myself

He cannot hurt me anymore

And I know I should be crying

But inside I'm slowly dying

'Cause all my love has gone

From two hearts so badly torn”

 Her’s was a yearn, an ache of love lost, love hoped for and love never subdued accompanied by the willingness to move on. The suppression of emotion layed out in those lyrics are generated from what most are acquainted with, Yes, A Relationship. It’s undeniably evident when they read “And I know I should be crying”.

Psychology has proved that avoiding your emotional wellbeing usually catches up with you, it lingers on  long after you’ve moved on with your life and appears in the most unexpected instances; in the way you carry yourself, how you communicate, and what you’re willing or not willing to endeavour in. For lack of a better example suppression is like a bad tooth, you can’t avoid the dentist forever.

 In a nutshell Trauma, Personal ordeals and fears are not supposed to be concealed.