Familiar Echoes

 “Be open to the echoes of wisdom, its truths will reveal itself in time”

 - Unknown

In a recent song I’ve played over and over in my playlist I came across the art of Suppression, its nothing new really, a couple of people have probably been subject to it for over decades now, without their knowledge. I hastily opened my dictionary and tried to make sense of it. I was certainly alarmed when it read:

Suppress:

•         Forcibly put an end to
•         Prevent the development, action, or expression of (a feeling, impulse, idea, etc.); restrain.
•         Prevent the dissemination of (information), to conceal, to keep hidden.

I was rather alarmed when it said “to forcibly put and end to” I, for one can relate to that meaning but it’s too daunting of a task for anyone to do. Life is meant to be dealt in a way that offer’s closure if not peace of mind at the end of every decision or choice made. Resorting to suppression in any form, whether emotional or for personal reasons is never advised.

I always wondered how I would deal with things that involved my emotional well-being. After all “flesh and spirit” is what we possess, and what we put in is entirely up to us.

And after a while you begin to pay attention to the lines that appear near your mouth when you smile. How your eyes beam at good things. And how they seem to fit. And you wonder if concealing it, is right. Pain may be inevitable, it does however have a remedy.

The song in my playlist echoed at the back of my mind, and I did not find myself nodding in regard to what Anita baker was saying in her 1983 ballad “No more Tears”.

In the second paragraph after the chorus she sings:

“Ain't no more sadden eyes

From crying through the night

Gonna gather up, gather up my feelings

And lock them all inside

So when you say you're leaving

And you walk out my door

I can truly say to myself

He cannot hurt me anymore

And I know I should be crying

But inside I'm slowly dying

'Cause all my love has gone

From two hearts so badly torn”

 Her’s was a yearn, an ache of love lost, love hoped for and love never subdued accompanied by the willingness to move on. The suppression of emotion layed out in those lyrics are generated from what most are acquainted with, Yes, A Relationship. It’s undeniably evident when they read “And I know I should be crying”.

Psychology has proved that avoiding your emotional wellbeing usually catches up with you, it lingers on  long after you’ve moved on with your life and appears in the most unexpected instances; in the way you carry yourself, how you communicate, and what you’re willing or not willing to endeavour in. For lack of a better example suppression is like a bad tooth, you can’t avoid the dentist forever.

 In a nutshell Trauma, Personal ordeals and fears are not supposed to be concealed.